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The idea of being in love

 In love,

Nowadays, love has become so common. You see little kids falling in love. You see adults falling in love. But is it so easy to fall in love? No, it is not.

The idea of being in love,

You love the idea of being in a relationship. You let relations define your happiness but believe it's not true. 
The happiest couples you see on the internet are not happy. They are just pretending but you don't have to do that. You can live your life however you want to by loving yourself first not someone else. Love is not as common as it seems. It's rare and it takes time and luck to find that.

UNEXPECTED TIMING
Ooo... Love comes at the most unexpected time. When you expect the least, it will come knocking at your door making your life chaotic. But that's the beauty of it, that's the thing we want right? Who wants to have things simply without any drama. There is no fun without chaos.

UNEXPECTED PERSON
Love comes from the unexpected. You get feelings for your best friend right when they get in a relationship (timing is always bad I know), you fall for someone else while being in a relation, it can happen with anyone. Then it all comes to you and your guts to accept it or not, to tell them or not. 

HARD & HARSH DECISIONS
Believe me, love doesn't come so easily ( there are exceptions) but it's not necessary that you will become the exception. So you have to make a decision either to choose your sanity, your love or your friendship. What if it broke our friendship by admitting love, what if they love someone else, what if I break someone's heart. Our life just revolves around what-ifs. We have to decisions on our own. 
We keep on procrastinating, we keep on delaying, we choose to live in denial rather than working on our present.

TRUST YOURSELF 
Many people try to force things. They try to find love in anyone possible, questioning themselves what if something is wrong with me (been there, done that) but it's not worth it. The person who loves will never make you question or doubt yourself. You just have to stop forcing love to happen. It just brings your morale down, your self-respect down. It gives you only trust issues, abandonment issues. In the end, it will not even matter. So trusting in yourself, trusting the timing is the best thing you can ever do.

NOT THE ONLY THING
Love from someone is not the only thing you need. We know we want someone with whom we can confide. But it's not the only thing, right? Life keeps going on. It depends on us how we have to live it. By crying or by loving yourself, building a good life for ourselves. Love will come whenever it wants to. So, it not fair to make a full stop on our life. Life keeps going on and you should also keep going with it confidently and happily.

SOLUTION
The solution is with you only. Only you can decide what you want. You don't need to sit and think about what can happen and what-ifs. If you love someone you have to tell them, if you are in a relationship without any feelings you have to tell them. You have to make those difficult decisions. I know it's not easy but you don't want to live in fantasy. The right person comes at the wrong time mostly but they give you all the right reasons to stay, to make difficult choices. 

Everyone is waiting for their right ones they will come when you will expect them the least and your life will become beautiful chaos that you will love so much. 
So let's just wait together, maybe you are the next one or maybe I am. Will see!!!

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