Self Love: The love that keeps you going

 Self Love

Some say it is selfish, some say it gives confidence but what is self love? 

Self love is loving yourself without anyone's approval. To be confident in your own skin, to be satisfied with yourself when you look in the mirror, to confidently make choices which are good for your own being. 

Its a power.

Self love gives you power to stand for yourself, that confidence you need to achieve anything you want. You cannot focus on something, pursue your dreams without having confidence in yourself. And confidence comes by loving yourself. 

How to love yourself?

Loving yourself is greater than loving someone else. To accept your flaws, to work on them, to love your body , your skin is very important.

1. Self approval

You just need your approval. Start building your confidence in you. Start your day by saying good things about yourself in the mirror (like I am beautiful/handsome, i deserve happiness, i am the best etc.). Some will find this difficult in the beginning but believe it gets better.

2. Stop comparing yourself

You don't need to compare yourself to others. Everyone have different growth in life. You don't know their whole story. A good successful person can also be sad and lonely. So, you should just focus on yourself.

3. Don't worry about someone else opinion

You have to start doing thing that makes you and your soul happy without worrying what someone else would think about you. It's your life no one gets the right to have an opinion about it. You do you.

4. Personal time

Start having personal time. Do activities that make you feel good about yourself. Attend a yoga class, take yourself on a date, do gardening, anything that fulfills your soul.

5. Nourish yourself

Your body deserves a good meal, your skin deserves care, your hair deserves nourishment. Be in your own spotlight, start investing in yourself. Go eat a nutritious meal, oil your hair, apply face mask, dance on your favourite songs. These little things help a lot in building yourself.

6. Pursue your dreams

You owe it to yourself to have dreams, goals and to work on them. Yes you can experience failure but after you achieve your goals it will all be worth it. You will worth it for all the success because you tried.

7. Inhale positivity and exhale negativity

There is no room for negativity in your life. Cut off those people who brings negativity in your life. You don't need them. Make your thoughts positive only you can do this. 

8. Make yourself a priority

You need to prioritise yourself without feeling bad about it. Its okay to choose yourself first. Noramlise saying no to things that makes you uncomfortable. Do only things that make you happy within.

Self Love and Love Life

You cannot love someone else if you don't love yourself first. To give your best in a relationship or even in friendship you need to have self confidence.

If you don't have love yourself you will keep asking for their approval in relationships and it will start becoming toxic. One can truly love someone else if they know how to love yourself properly. Even your partner, your friends and family cannot teach you self love. It comes from within yourself.

Self love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you love yourself.

You need to own your story and love yourself through that process. There is no need to be ashamed of yourself.

What's the harm in loving yourself? 

It comes with only benefits.